“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.”
– Carl Jung

Are you feeling distraught over the state your relationship? Don’t know what to do about a once happy union that has begun to falter? Do you want to break the pattern of fighting and making up? If you’re afraid your current relationship is headed for a break up – or even if it’s just that the spark is gone, it’s time to consider relationship counseling.

Relationships can be tricky. Many experience exhilarating infatuation and excitement at the beginning of a union, but then, after six months or a year, find the feelings of love and adoration fading. “He is such a gentleman!” and “She is so attentive!” slowly morph into “He’s a slob” or “She would rather watch TV than talk.” When you first met, your “love object” seemed to have no faults – now faults are all you see.

Why does this happen? There are many reasons, one being the rather insidious influence of our culture. Have you ever noticed how obsessed society is with relationships? How many songs there are about love? How much money is spent on makeup and fitness so that we can attract that “special” one? It could become one’s life work if you let it! And implicit in all this messaging is that once you have someone, you will be happy.

The problem with this is that once the initial infatuation stage wears off (and it will), you are left with a partner who is, well, human. Which means your partner is not perfect and has faults. Just like you. And this means you will have to learn to navigate your differences together in order to succeed in partnership with each other. Relationship counseling can help you do this.

Dr. Piper Walsh is a specialist in relationship counseling. Couples learn from Dr. Walsh to communicate more effectively, explore the strengths and weaknesses in your relationship, address and heal past resentments, and most importantly, reconfigure expectations and move from stilted, unsatisfying situations to more loving, fulfilling ones. Relationship counseling offers all this and more, so contact Dr. Walsh today.