From the moment you find out that you’re going to become a parent, you are likely overwhelmed with information about the health and needs of your new arrival. Pediatricians, family members, friends, parent groups, schools and even the media all have opinions and conflicting information. Sifting through it all can be exhausting and demoralizing. Keep reading to learn more about how counseling for parents can help you be a better parent.
How Counseling Can Help You Be a Better Parent
Parenting can be among the most rewarding and the most complex jobs a person can tackle. Few relationships have the potential to be as intense, as close, as powerful or as emotionally charged as the one between parent and child. Unfortunately, the normal growing pains of life can lead to strain on these relationships as well as marriages and families. Dr. Walsh works with parents to ensure each family member has the space they need to grow and develop to their fullest.
From birth, parents are among the most influential people in children’s lives. Even after adulthood, children often reach out to their parents with questions and concerns. As parents, we know that our choices can have far-reaching effects on our kids, and we want to make sure those effects are as positive as possible. That effect can limit your child’s worldview and opportunities, or it can prepare your child to be open to new ideas, experiences and people. Counseling helps you tackle the tough issues that have been holding you back in your own life and gives you the confidence to be the best parent you can be.
Parenting Counseling at All Ages
Counseling for parents can be beneficial at all stages of parenthood and can help you address a wide range of issues, including:
- Managing new responsibilities
- Meeting the needs of multiple children
- Maintaining healthy work-life balance
- Struggling to set boundaries or limits
- Scheduling personal time or family time
- Bringing work home
- Arguing or fighting with siblings or family members
- Blending two families
- Transitioning through major life changes, such as cross-country moves or losses
- Adjusting and reconnecting after the children have moved out
- Inter-generational conflicts with adult children
Growing Pains and New Challenges
Growing up is hard work for parents and kids alike. All the learning, growing, experimenting and developing that children need to do is hard work. Sometimes, the process can even be painful or difficult. Children struggle, make mistakes and feel frustrated, and so do parents. Overcoming challenges is a part of becoming a healthy, well-adjusted adult. However, parents often want to step in and fix things, especially if we’re carrying our own history of trauma or defeat.
With counseling, you can focus on your development and growth; your kids can have the space they need to work on theirs. You can parent your kids the way they need instead of falling back into unhelpful and potentially self-defeating coping mechanisms. You can learn new ways to manage those inevitable parenting challenges. This is even more important if your children are dealing with their turmoil or turbulence.
South Orange County Counseling
Kids don’t come with instruction manuals, and that means that, for many of us, parenting is a series of trials and errors. Some of the biggest decisions we’ll ever make are made on the spur of the moment. With parenting counseling, we can work through those challenges together by developing healthy boundaries, appropriate goals and positive relationship dynamics in your family.
At South Orange County Counseling, counseling for parents can help you deal with your toughest parenting challenges so that you can move forward with your family into deeper, more rewarding relationships. Contact us today to learn more about how counseling can help you be a better parent or to schedule an appointment with Dr. Piper Walsh.
Have you been feeling irritable and stressed? You aren’t alone. Have you noticed changes in how you handle everyday frustrations? Counseling can help. When stress and worry become overwhelming, you need a professional counselor to help you. Counseling can help you to gain control of your thoughts and actions, so you can effectively navigate life’s challenges.
Are You Feeling Frustrated?
When you feel unappreciated or overwhelmed at home or at work, it’s easy to become frustrated. Feelings of frustration can quickly spiral into resentment and anger. If you find yourself reacting to others with outbursts of anger, it’s time to take a deeper look at how to manage your thoughts and feelings. A professional counselor can help you to proactively address the sources of your frustration and avoid the destructive slide into anger or resentment.
How Counseling Can Help
While you may not be able to eliminate stress from your life, there are ways to minimize the negative effects of stress. For example, if you are experiencing stress due to family issues, both family counseling and individual counseling can help you to work through each issue. If you and your spouse are having trouble communicating, marriage, couples and family counseling can benefit you both. If you have a stressful job, if you are feeling pressure from your family, or judgement your friends, Dr. Walsh can help you work through these issues and others.
Dr. Piper Walsh can help you find solutions to curb negative reactions to stress and frustration. She has experience with complex family issues and takes every current and past issue into consideration. Dr. Walsh can help you discover effective strategies to cope with frustration, lower stress, and improve quality of life.
Dr. Walsh serves San Clemente, Laguna Beach, Irvine and several other South Orange County areas. She treats each client with the utmost respect and compassion. Her goal is to be a personal advocate for each client’s long-term success and happiness. If you want to learn how counseling can help you, please call Dr. Walsh’s office today.
Sometimes, in life, things don’t always pan out, and this is especially true for marriages. While infidelity issues and misunderstandings can create a rift in the strongest relationships, the tried-and-true method of compromising can restore a bond that has been lost. For this reason, you and your partner should consult a compassionate counselor. Consider asking these marriage counseling questions to strengthen your relationship:
What are the biggest problems in our marriage?
This question forces you to gain a deeper understanding of what’s destroying the relationship. It also allows you to express how you really feel. Also, the key is to listen to your partner; try to see things from a different perspective. Once the biggest problems are revealed and addressed, you and your partner will be in a better position to find common ground again.
What needs to change?
Even if your behaviors and habits aren’t necessarily bad, they may still be a major source of annoyance. No one wants to come home and interact with a person who is vexatious. Therefore, it’s very important that you and your partner talk about the minor and major things that need to change.
Is there any trust left?
Trust is conducive to a strong, healthy marriage, so it’s the one component that you don’t want to lose. Unfortunately, if you’ve been unfaithful to your spouse, there might not be any trust left. This is where counseling can help. Infidelity issues and suspicious actions should be discussed so that everyone can better understand the reasons behind them. During each session with your counselor, you’ll have opportunities to show your spouse that you can be trusted again. Don’t hesitate to share your concerns if you think that you’ve also been betrayed.
Do you still love what you see?
Don’t get defensive if your spouse gives you an unfavorable answer. Whether it’s a complaint about your weight gain or a remark about your personality, you have to be willing to acknowledge how your spouse feels. More importantly, you should spare no effort to make some personal changes if you want your marriage to take a turn for the better. Lifelong unions are easier to maintain when the two people involved are open to improving themselves.
How can we restore our bond?
It doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re doing enough. Taking suggestions from your partner can only help because you’ll know exactly what to do to shrink the rift that has developed. In most marriages, bonds are broken due to poor communication skills. That’s why talking is definitely a requirement. If your spouse feels lonely or unappreciated, go out of your way to showcase your unconditional support and gratitude. Your counselor is trained to offer personalized solutions, so give marriage counseling a try if you truly want to strenghen you relationship.
Coping skills are mechanisms that you use to deal with stress and trauma. We all face difficult times in our lives, and sometimes we need help to get through them. You must develop solutions and coping skills whether you have one issue or multiple problems that cause stress, anxiety or depression. Dr. Piper Walsh compassionately helps people in South OC develop coping skills from therapy.
When Do People Need To Develop Coping Strategies?
There are many times in life when coping strategies are necessary. After a loss such as a divorce or the death of a loved one, coping strategies help people to continue their lives while they deal with anger, depression and grief. In some instances, coping strategies may be necessary after a positive life change. For example, some newlyweds may have difficulty adjusting to married life and may face emotional challenges. Also, the birth of a child or a job promotion may bring more joy to life but may also bring new types of stress. Dr. Walsh knows how to help people learn and use coping skills to get through any type of life change.
Types Of Coping Mechanisms And Strategies
Coping strategies usually include two major facets. Coping is needed because of a problem that causes emotional distress. A problem-focused strategy helps you deal with the person, incident or thing that causes the distress. An emotion-based strategy helps you deal with the negative feelings that arise from the problem. Learning to cope with only the problem but not with the feelings can be detrimental. This is why Dr. Walsh performs a thorough analysis and develops a comprehensive and personalized strategy for you.
Mechanisms for coping may be active or avoidant. Active coping is addressing the problem when it causes negative feelings. However, avoidant coping is avoiding the problem or stress source. These are some examples of common coping mechanisms:
- Talking about the problem
- Taking action
- Physical activities
Think of a coping strategy as a holistic approach to dealing with what is troubling you. Also, a comprehensive coping strategy includes awareness and multiple actions or activities. Creating an ideal action plan depends on your individual needs, the problem, your feelings and your goals. Dr. Walsh will discuss these topics with you in greater detail and will help you build an effective action plan.
As time passes, improper coping mechanisms may turn into more complex issues. When a life change or problem arises, it is important to seek therapy as quickly as possible. You show care for yourself and for your mental health when you seek help. Reaching out for help is often the most difficult step of the process for some people. The good news is that once you reach out, you will have a personal advocate who is ready to help you succeed. If you are ready to learn beneficial coping skills from therapy, call South OC Counseling.