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Piper Walsh, Ph.D. PhD. Clinical Psychologist
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Worried? Stressed? Counseling Can Help

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Have you been feeling irritable and stressed? You aren’t alone. Have you noticed changes in how you handle everyday frustrations? Counseling can help. When stress and worry become overwhelming, you need a professional counselor to help you. Counseling can help you to gain control of your thoughts and actions, so you can effectively navigate life’s challenges.

Are You Feeling Frustrated?

When you feel unappreciated or overwhelmed at home or at work, it’s easy to become frustrated. Feelings of frustration can quickly spiral into resentment and anger. If you find yourself reacting to others with outbursts of anger, it’s time to take a deeper look at how to manage your thoughts and feelings. A professional counselor can help you to proactively address the sources of your frustration and avoid the destructive slide into anger or resentment.

How Counseling Can Help

While you may not be able to eliminate stress from your life, there are ways to minimize the negative effects of stress. For example, if you are experiencing stress due to family issues, both family counseling and individual counseling can help you to work through each issue. If you and your spouse are having trouble communicating, marriage, couples and family counseling can benefit you both. If you have a stressful job, if you are feeling pressure from your family, or judgement your friends, Dr. Walsh can help you work through these issues and others.

Dr. Piper Walsh can help you find solutions to curb negative reactions to stress and frustration. She has experience with complex family issues and takes every current and past issue into consideration. Dr. Walsh can help you discover effective strategies to cope with frustration, lower stress, and improve quality of life.

Dr. Walsh serves San Clemente, Laguna Beach, Irvine and several other South Orange County areas. She treats each client with the utmost respect and compassion. Her goal is to be a personal advocate for each client’s long-term success and happiness. If you want to learn how counseling can help you, please call Dr. Walsh’s office today.

 

Marriage Counseling Questions to Strengthen Your Relationship

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Sometimes, in life, things don’t always pan out, and this is especially true for marriages. While infidelity issues and misunderstandings can create a rift in the strongest relationships, the tried-and-true method of compromising can restore a bond that has been lost. For this reason, you and your partner should consult a compassionate counselor. Consider asking these marriage counseling questions to strengthen your relationship: 

What are the biggest problems in our marriage? 

This question forces you to gain a deeper understanding of what’s destroying the relationship. It also allows you to express how you really feel. Also, the key is to listen to your partner; try to see things from a different perspective. Once the biggest problems are revealed and addressed, you and your partner will be in a better position to find common ground again. 

What needs to change? 

Even if your behaviors and habits aren’t necessarily bad, they may still be a major source of annoyance. No one wants to come home and interact with a person who is vexatious. Therefore, it’s very important that you and your partner talk about the minor and major things that need to change. 

Is there any trust left? 

Trust is conducive to a strong, healthy marriage, so it’s the one component that you don’t want to lose. Unfortunately, if you’ve been unfaithful to your spouse, there might not be any trust left. This is where counseling can help. Infidelity issues and suspicious actions should be discussed so that everyone can better understand the reasons behind them. During each session with your counselor, you’ll have opportunities to show your spouse that you can be trusted again. Don’t hesitate to share your concerns if you think that you’ve also been betrayed. 

Do you still love what you see? 

Don’t get defensive if your spouse gives you an unfavorable answer. Whether it’s a complaint about your weight gain or a remark about your personality, you have to be willing to acknowledge how your spouse feels. More importantly, you should spare no effort to make some personal changes if you want your marriage to take a turn for the better. Lifelong unions are easier to maintain when the two people involved are open to improving themselves. 

How can we restore our bond? 

It doesn’t matter if you feel like you’re doing enough. Taking suggestions from your partner can only help because you’ll know exactly what to do to shrink the rift that has developed. In most marriages, bonds are broken due to poor communication skills. That’s why talking is definitely a requirement. If your spouse feels lonely or unappreciated, go out of your way to showcase your unconditional support and gratitude. Your counselor is trained to offer personalized solutions, so give marriage counseling a try if you truly want to strenghen you relationship.

Develop Solutions And Coping Skills

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Coping skills are mechanisms that you use to deal with stress and trauma. We all face difficult times in our lives, and sometimes we need help to get through them. You must develop solutions and coping skills whether you have one issue or multiple problems that cause stress, anxiety or depression. Dr. Piper Walsh compassionately helps people in South OC develop coping skills from therapy.

When Do People Need To Develop Coping Strategies?

There are many times in life when coping strategies are necessary. After a loss such as a divorce or the death of a loved one, coping strategies help people to continue their lives while they deal with anger, depression and grief. In some instances, coping strategies may be necessary after a positive life change. For example, some newlyweds may have difficulty adjusting to married life and may face emotional challenges. Also, the birth of a child or a job promotion may bring more joy to life but may also bring new types of stress. Dr. Walsh knows how to help people learn and use coping skills to get through any type of life change.

Types Of Coping Mechanisms And Strategies

Coping strategies usually include two major facets. Coping is needed because of a problem that causes emotional distress. A problem-focused strategy helps you deal with the person, incident or thing that causes the distress. An emotion-based strategy helps you deal with the negative feelings that arise from the problem. Learning to cope with only the problem but not with the feelings can be detrimental. This is why Dr. Walsh performs a thorough analysis and develops a comprehensive and personalized strategy for you.

Mechanisms for coping may be active or avoidant. Active coping is addressing the problem when it causes negative feelings. However, avoidant coping is avoiding the problem or stress source. These are some examples of common coping mechanisms:

  • Talking about the problem
  • Relaxing
  • Taking action
  • Humor
  • Physical activities

Think of a coping strategy as a holistic approach to dealing with what is troubling you. Also, a comprehensive coping strategy includes awareness and multiple actions or activities. Creating an ideal action plan depends on your individual needs, the problem, your feelings and your goals. Dr. Walsh will discuss these topics with you in greater detail and will help you build an effective action plan.

As time passes, improper coping mechanisms may turn into more complex issues. When a life change or problem arises, it is important to seek therapy as quickly as possible. You show care for yourself and for your mental health when you seek help. Reaching out for help is often the most difficult step of the process for some people. The good news is that once you reach out, you will have a personal advocate who is ready to help you succeed. If you are ready to learn beneficial coping skills from therapy, call South OC Counseling.

Dealing With The Loss Of A Child – Grief Counseling Can Help

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When a person is dealing with the loss of a child, grief counseling can help. Grieving parents may visit support groups or may talk to friends who have also lost children. They often feel that it is harder to relate to people who have never experienced such a devastating loss. Although reaching out to others may provide some comfort, each person’s reactions to the loss of a child are different. Dr. Walsh works with many parents who feel that nobody understands the multiple facets of their grief.

Viewing Grief As A Unique Experience

Most people have heard of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and her theory of five stages of grief. They include depression, denial, anger, bargaining and acceptance. Over the years, teachers and psychologists have applied these stages to many scenarios. However, recent studies and reports show that some people may not experience each of those stages. For example, one woman whose 20-year-old son died in a car accident said that she only felt numbness afterward. She did not feel that she experienced any of those five stages. While a feeling of loss will remain with a parent forever, every person expresses a variety of emotions. A parent’s history, memories, experiences and relationship with a deceased child are unique. Grief is related to those factors and many others.

Why One-on-one Counseling Is Helpful

A counselor who learns about a grieving parent’s loss can offer support that is tailored to the individual’s unique needs. According to multiple studies, one of the most profound types of grief is a parent’s loss of a child. However, humans have the ability to go through a devastating loss and come out changed but not broken.

If parents do not receive adequate bereavement counseling, some may develop complicated grief. This type of grief includes symptoms of trauma and separation distress. Complicated grief is more common among parents whose children die unexpectedly or suddenly. If a parent has other children to care for, grief will affect them too. Research shows that siblings are more likely to internalize or externalize grief during the first two years following the death. Parents can help grieving children better when they have a counselor who nurtures their mental health while they grieve.

If you are dealing with the loss of a child, South Orange County Grief Counseling can help. You need someone who you can trust and someone who understands your feelings. Although grief is a difficult journey, you do not have to navigate it alone. Dr. Walsh will help guide you through each step with compassionate support. She is experienced in helping parents accept and cope with the death of a child as they move forward with their lives. If you have additional losses or obstacles in your life, Dr. Walsh can also help you deal with those.

Sources:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/talking-about-trauma/201506/grieving-the-loss-child-the-five-stage-myth
https://www.aamft.org/Consumer_Updates/Grieving_the_Loss_of_A_Child.aspx
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK220798/